Should You Watch The Cremation Of Your Loved One?
Posted on: 20 February 2015
Many professionals recommend that family members not be present during cremations. Others find that watching a cremation brings a deep sense of closure. So what's right for you?
Before you make your decision, you should know a bit about the cremation process. First, the body is placed in a casket or container. This container is then placed in the furnace, where the remains are reduced to bone fragments. These fragments are collected and placed in a machine that grinds them into a powder, often referred to as ashes.
For the family, there really isn't much to see along the way. Still, cremation can be upsetting for some:
If You Attend
Even if you decide that watching the cremation of your loved one is the best course of action for you, you may still find that you feel overwhelmed at times. This is normal.
Still, the more prepared you are going in, the better off you will likely be. Before you go, you should learn what to expect, in terms of the process and atmosphere. For example, because of the nature of the process, a cremation does not typically have the same peaceful feeling characteristic of a graveside service (the cremation equivalent is instead the later scattering of the ashes).
The industrial feel of the environment may be upsetting to some. If you have any questions, talk to the funeral home or crematory. You should also contact them in advance to let them know you're coming and to confirm that they allow family members to watch.
If You Don't Attend
There are many ways to achieve closure without attending the cremation itself. Some families choose to hold a special memorial service in another location at the same time that the cremation is taking place. Others feel they don't need a ceremony beforehand, instead concentrating on the scattering of the ashes. These scatterings are often accompanied by memorial services of their own.
If you do not wish to watch the cremation, you should know that you have the option to be there when the casket is placed into the furnace, and then leave. In some cases, you may be allowed to push the button to start the process, if you choose.
The decision to watch a cremation is ultimately left up to you. You know what you need and what will help you in your grieving process. Do not feel guilty if you opt not to be present for the cremation. Likewise, if you want to attend a cremation, know that there is nothing strange or morbid about your choice. Do your research, be aware of your feelings, and do what is best for you.
To learn more, contact a company like Suess Bernard Funeral Home Inc. with any questions you have.
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